The best questions to ask every successful person you meet


You can learn a lot from talking with successful people. Know which questions to ask to help you reach your full potential in your career.

If you ever run into Warren Buffett, Angelina Jolie, or Michael Jordan in an elevator—do you have a speech prepared? Don’t lie; some of you already do, and that’s great. When it comes to formulating good questions to ask successful people, the rest of you are likely going to wing it.
Career tip: Don’t ever wing it. You may not ever meet a red-carpet superstar, but your chances of bumping into someone whose career you admire—at a networking event, in the grocery store, or maybe even in an elevator—are considerably higher. When that happens, take advantage of it. Ask successful people one or two of these questions to get some of their best insights and advice.

When did you consider yourself a success?

People define success differently. For instance, wealth accumulation, increased free time, lifestyle options, and creating social impact are just a few ways that people can define success. This question can yield great insight into others’ values and priorities.

How do you push through your worst times?

My reason for asking is purely selfish—I want to understand how successful people do it so that I can derive from their experiences in creating my own path of success. And that selfish approach is working.

What keeps you awake at night?

People can be kept awake either with worry about something bad or excitement for new opportunities.  Successful people are often focusing not only on the present but the future. You often can learn from them about trends in their industry or challenges in the marketplace.

What are your success habits?

Ask successful people about their daily routines, so she can learn about the daily habits and routine steps that help create an environment of success. This question typically reveals things anyone can do as long as they focus and follow through to meet their goals, she explains.

Are you hiring?

This may seem a little forward, but you never know. It’s worked for Gary Tuch, co-founder of Professor Egghead Science Academy, a national children’s franchise focusing on science and engineering programs. When he was younger and met successful entrepreneurs, his parents encouraged him to be bold and ask for a job, he says. “By doing so I was able to land jobs/internships working side by side with successful people—from there I gained experience and knowledge to start my own company.”

What is your favorite TV show?

Professional comedian Dan Nainan likes to ask successful people about their television viewing habits, specifically how much they watch. “The answer is almost always a little to none,” he says. Successful people are out building their empires, traveling the globe, or spending time with loved ones. They don’t have time for Game of Thrones.

Hire me?

OK, that’s a bit of an overstep to ask someone you just met. After all, this person can’t wave a wand and turn you into a new hire—but we might be able to increase your chances of it happening. Could you use some help getting a job? Join XY Careers for free today. As a member, you can upload your cover letter and resume. Recruiters search XY Careers every day looking to fill top jobs with qualified candidates, just like you. Additionally, you can get job alerts sent to your inbox.